Rebecca Miller from Lifehouse Spa and Hotel is a therapist with a difference, specialising in Human Needs Psychology she is essentially an expert in how to be happy. Having previously given us the inside track on how to be happy right now she continues her message here with top tips for smiling throughout the week!
Create a vision board of all the things and people you love and that make you smile and feel happy. Take a photo of it on your phone so you can look at it whenever you need a reminder or a boost.
Be more playful! Go back to your inner child and remind yourself of things you used to do for fun or something you would like to do now, and then make a date to do it. Even if it’s just a coffee and giggle with a friend it will prompt happy feelings so make sure you plan to include regular pally times in your life to remind yourself not to take things so seriously.
Smile more! You may not always get a smile back but your brain can’t distinguish between real experiences and imagined ones, so smile as though you feel happy and access some of the happy memories using some of the ideas above.
Have a mind detox day! Often, as a way of connecting with others, we get drawn into other people’s complaints and blaming habits, particularly at work. We then develop the habit of either joining in and agreeing with them or adding our own woes and complaints to the list. All of this has a very negative and detrimental effect on our happiness levels. So, for one whole day, make a commitment not to complain about anything, blame anyone or anything (including the weather and traffic), moan or express shame by running yourself down in any way. If you catch yourself doing it, charge yourself a £1, you will be amazed at how much money you may collect by the end of the day!
Put, as the great David Bowie and put it, on your dance shoes! Music is a natural up-lifter and a great instant mood shifter! By putting on some uplifting music and letting your inner Strictly emerge you will naturally release positive endorphins, change your focus and change your state of mind, allowing you to reframe whatever is bothering you and create some more positive solutions instead.
If you can’t actually dance at that particular moment, having a playlist to hand on your phone of songs that make you feel energised and happy or that bring back positive memories for you will also work wonders.
Our brain cannot tell the difference between what is real or imagined, it responds to our emotions so have fun with it! Create a list of ‘wouldn’t it be nice ‘ifs’……’ , however outlandish they may be as what is important is changing your focus and therefore your emotional state in the moment to make us feel better and give us a more positive focus as well as more positive actions we can take.
‘Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle’. Philo of Alexandria (20BC- AD50), Philosopher
A journalist by trade, Bonnie is the Editor for Spabreaks.com. Keen to spread the message on accessible wellbeing and a spa experience for all, she thinks green smoothies are somewhat overrated and her favourite spa treatment is an Elemis Couture Technology facial.