There are some people who you spend time with who make you feel exhausted. The drain you of all your energy and sometimes they’re so skilled at doing it that you don’t even notice it’s them.
It’s not in your head, some people really are vampires. So how can you spot them and more importantly, what can you do about it?
You know the ones, there is always a problem and they can never see a solution, but they always want to tell you about it. Not that they think you can really help, in fact, for every solution you suggest they have a problem to match it.
Whether they realise it or not, their goal is usually to bring everyone else down to their level. It’s draining.
According to Dr. Bruce Goldberg, a hypnotherapist and the author of 21 best-selling and award winning books, including Past Lives, Future Lives, paranoid vampires are “soldiers still trying to win a war that no longer exists against an enemy that has long since perished. They do not trust anyone. Everyone is their enemy and life is their battleground.”
They are particularly distrustful of the opposite sex, and their paranoia often manifests as aggression. They often pick arguments and fights and while they can be extremely charming, they struggle to maintain long-term relationships. They are often obsessive.
The best thing to do is keep subject matter light and positive, steer clear of conversations that may prove controversial and don’t get into an argument with them. It is not worth it; they will not let you prove them wrong.
Goldberg also alerts us to other types of vampire characters, including the passive-aggressive type. He says they are on a quest to feel free but their own fear prevents them from achieving that.
As a result, they are angry and resentful and are struggling against the world to find a solution to their sense of being trapped. All very well, but for those around them it is once again exhausting and pretty unpleasant as well.
Goldberg says: “Passive-aggressive types lack autonomy. They constantly strive to involve other people in their lives. This individual makes demands and resists input at the same time.” They tend not to plan into the future and “project loneliness, desperation, and resentment toward everyone they contact. It is impossible for them to express anger.”
They tend to ask for advice but whatever you suggest they will reject. Maybe just listen and don’t worry about finding a solution for them.
We all crave love, but some in a very different way to others. In fact, it is pretty heart breaking to see. According to Goldberg, insecure vampires “The insecure type feels that everyone around them is draining their energy; their response is to suck the energy from others to compensate.”
They are prone to addiction, and tend to create life circumstances to prove their lack of worthiness. They tend to appear helpless more often than not and tend to need a lot of things doing for them. Or at least, that’s the way they make it seem.
If you want to support this person offer words of encouragement, but do not offer pity and do not get into the habit of doing things for them. You may struggle to be able to stop!
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