It comes at a time when research conducted by Ernst & Young found that approximately a third of those surveyed said managing work-life has become more difficult. Here, Spabreaks.com ambassador Denise van Outen talks about the challenges of modern life…
I think it’s tricky because we’re constantly juggling. I’m a single parent, I work and I am constantly on the go. I feel like I’m always chasing my tail, and that has become the norm for me. It’s a constant juggling act – always trying to be in two places at once for whatever reason.
It is hard and I’m the worst person for waking up and turning my phone on first thing. I always think to myself – I never used to do that, I used to get up and have breakfast and a cup of tea rather than fill my head with work from the second I wake up. It’s different when I’m on the school run because I don’t get time to look at my phone. It always feels wrong, putting energy into WhatsApp messages and emails – you have to be aware of it and set yourself some boundaries.
I think it’s trying not to exhaust yourself too much. Trying to make sure you give people your time in a meaningful way. I’m sometimes so busy that everything becomes a rush, whether it’s dinner with my daughter or time with friends, and then there’s always that pressure of if you don’t do a job properly there’s always someone to take your place.
I think they’re different but I don’t think one’s tougher than the other; it’s personal. In my house I’m mum and dad for example and it’s a juggling act trying to be two people, but there are pressures for dads as well. I think men and women both have a lot of pressures, but I don’t think men don’t admit to it as much.
I think it kind of is and kind of isn’t. I think we are more aware and it’s there for us all to see – we’re constantly reminded to take time out, but that’s not the same as doing it. If you do it however, you realise how important it is.
I make time for it really. I try to teach my daughter the importance of taking time out as well. I play golf, which I have managed to fit into my schedule, and I do go on spa breaks, which is something I can do with my daughter. Sometimes the only way you have quality time with loved ones is when you step out of your environment – I know that if I took a day off and stayed at home I wouldn’t be able to just relax.
Yeah, I think before I was pregnant I said yes to everything when it came to work and I was running on empty. Having Betsy made me re-evaulate my life and value myself as well as my daughter.
I think it’s become very hard to switch off and careers have become the main focus of peoples’ lives, I think sometimes we feel guilty when we’re not working or doing something. We’ve become more career driven but you have to be careful not to burnout.